April 14, 2015
A reader raises her two-year-old
at home but her husband
thinks daycare is necessary to teach
the child to interact and be assertive.
What do you think?
by Sandra
(henrymakow.com)
I am writing in the hope that you can give me your advice. My husband and I have a two-year-old boy. So far, I refused to go back to work, and have stayed with my child at home, while my husband works full time and supports our family.
This is best for our child, both from my own experience (my parents pushed me into daycare system when I was a kid, and it was sheer torture for me.) I am horrified at the possibility of placing my child in such an environment and scarring him, the way I was scarred.
However, my husband, thinks if we don’t give our son to the daycare system soon, he’ll run the danger of becoming too ‘passive’, ‘unassertive’, and become a ‘target for bullies’, due to having spent his formative years exclusively at home with his parents.
My parents put me in a daycare at the age of 5, so that I “learn to socialize and be a part of a structured group.” (I was an only child, by the way, just as my son is.)
I absolutely hated the following year-and-a-half of my life – I still carry scars. I entered the elementary school and, surprisingly – loved it. It was so different and so much better than the dreaded daycare system.
My husband was sent to JK at the age of 3 and a half and hated it and was bullied through much of his school stay, from the age of three to high school graduation. He partially blames this on the fact that his parents were late to place him in the educational system. Because he started to socialize late, he never learned to be assertive and avoid/defeat/combat bullying that he was subjected to.
I absolutely dread placing my young son in this early childhood education mincing machine. On the other hand, my husband and a family friend got me paranoid and worried that if we wait for our child to enter the grade 1 at the age of 6 – he will be ill prepared to function optimally in an organized group of kids, too passive, unassertive and quiet. My son, by the way, is very perceptive, quiet and sensitive, yet very active.
In your experience as a parent, as a concerned citizen, and intelligent author, would you be able to please share your opinion on this with me, and / or direct me to some of your or others’ articles / texts that discuss this particular issue?
Do you by any chance know of any studies that deal with correlation of being bullied at school and entering the educational system later (say, at the age of 5) rather than earlier (say, at the age of 2 or 3), or studies that show the exact opposite to hold true? I am starting to do my own internet research on this, but so far not much has come up.
Thank you very much for your reply in advance.
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This was my reply; I welcome yours:
Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at
Source Article from http://henrymakow.com/2015/04/Mother-Is-Daycare-Good.html
Mother: Is Daycare Good for My Son's Development?
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